They live next door: Neigbors with benefits

SDC: NeigborsJust a suburb, somewhere in Ohio...  Where married couples live there every day lives as parents, professionals, soccer moms and little league coaches. And as swingers. A&E is turning the camera on swinging married couples in a new reality series, “Neighbors With Benefits.”

The producers of the series estimate that there are upwards of 15 million swingers in America and with the docuseries they want to show how the ordinary couples spice up their sex lives by courting prospective partners and interacting with their like-minded friends.

Leading roles are for Tony and Diana, who were the first to move into the neighborhood and serve as the leaders for the lifestyle movement. They speak openly about it and often serve as the center of the activity, hosting events and bringing new members into the community. Executive producer Aaron Rothman tells The Post: “They’re attractive people. This isn’t your pony-tailed, earring guy that you would picture being a part of swingers. They look and feel like they are your neighbors. Their kids are playing with your kids.”

Besides Tony and Diana there are the  neighborhood couples Brittany and Cody, who are having trouble playing by the rules of the life style; longtime swingers Lori and Eric, who still fear the judgment of others and newbies Vince and Penny are debating becoming swingers.  Mark and Amy are friends with the group, but strictly monogamous.

Premiere: March 22 at 10 p.m.

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+3 #1 Ron 2015-02-13 21:29
From experience, too close for comfort. Not all marriages are rock solid. And sex creates a flow of a body chemical called oxytocin, the feel good hormone. That hormone and the resulting feelings, can be mistaken for "love".

Probably a big reason for our high divorce rate.

And if you have an easy access to sex outside your marriage, there can be problems. I have personally seen this from a group I was in with my ex for 3 years.

Best to play at a distance.
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+19 #2 John T. 2015-02-13 22:23
First of all, you can be sure it will not accurately depict the swinger lifestyle as TV never shows anything accurately.
Regarding Ron's comment; I've never seen any data that shows swingers have a particularly higher divorce rate than the rest of society.

Who edits Lifestyle news? Even a simple spell check would catch the misspelled words in the title and first sentence.
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+1 #3 Jasonandleia 2015-02-15 00:14
This is Jason typing. Years ago, I and x girlfriend got the invitation to be in a made for T.V. (Pay per view) show about swingers. It started out really mello. I believe the production company followed us around for a week straight. From wake up TO let themselves out at night. Morning life, work day with my bosses approval, then night life. It was quite unique. As the weekend came closer they wined and dined us. It was a really good time!!!
The final two nights they gave all the participants (8 couples) wonderfull rooms in a downtown Fort Lauderdale hotel on the strip. We had a ball!!!
The last night... After Q and A in the conference room of the hotel on cam we went to a HUGE swing party in a glamours house in West Lauderdale. We spent the night there. Playing away. We did not get the spot light of the show at all. But I still have friends with online T.V asking me about the "back then" . And still made some friends in the making of the show.

12 years later, I will say, being on cam the whole time was highly stressful.

Remember this phrase. "Look at the camera" and "remember you are talking to the world"


It was fun!!! I would not do it again! AND, I have never seen the show.

Good luck to those new reality T.V. stars. I imagine the new film crews are presses to push the new cast Really Hard!!!
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+9 #4 David 2015-02-15 04:18
I have to agree with being to close not such a good idea. My ex and I started talking about the idea of swinging and just started do some light playing around. We talked about it for quite awhile and decided to ask the couple across the street to join us. We asked them and they also had been talking about it. It took a little bit but finally had a 3some with the other wife that was followed with a 3some for the husband. We went to parties together, had parties and we got together quite often. The standing rule for all of us was nothing would happen if one was missing unless the missing one was called or told ahead of time. Well my work was over night shifts and this didn't happen on my exes part and the other couple never told me. I later found out about others being with my ex and the other couple but again was never told. After awhile and catching my ex in several lies we divorced. The other couple moved away but we kept in touch on a limited basis. They also just got divorced for the very same reason. That is why I don't think close by is a good idea.
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+1 #5 Ron 2015-02-15 22:37
JOHN T: My comment about high divorce rates was not simply for those in this lifestyle. It was intended for all marriages. I have seen "studies" that go both ways, lower divorce rate in this hobby, and higher, so no way to tell what is reality.

But oxytocin is reality, and it can be misleading as to true emotions.
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+2 #6 Roberta 2015-02-16 03:11
I totally agree with JohnT. TV never depicts anything accurately, especially stuff outside the "ma"mainstream" . All the shows I've ever seen about swinging have been sorely disappointing. I wouldnthink expect this one to be any different!
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+5 #7 Lee 2015-02-18 22:02
The more T.V. makes of it the worse it will be. Do we really need every nosey lady/man in every suburban home watching our every move to determine if we are "swingers" or just having friends over for a barbecue. Town gossip has ruined more than one home , job or caused huge problems for kids in school. I am not ashamed but I don't need my private life broadcast either. It would seem that A&E and the likes are not about art and entertainment anymore but more about creating drama around what society chooses to look past...Devils Ride is an example. No I think this is bad, will bring people looking for a quick thrill, and trouble to a place where there have been good people and trust. The people doing this are not our friends, they do not share my views and are money hungry, fame seeking individuals. This will not be good for the lifestyle, and will cause many of us problems.
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+2 #8 Gary 2015-04-30 19:52
Well it got cancelled after only 2 episodes... and good riddance. This show was nothing like the real swinging lifestyle. It was more like a community cult with a couple who felt they had to recruit others. No one should feel a need to recruit. If a couple is drawn to swinging they will figure out how to make contacts and get into it at their own pace. Someone was just trying to make a quick buck and I believe disrespects the LS just by being so indiscreet. Those who respect the LS pride themselves in discretion and are never pushy or feel a need to recruit others.... they may openly discuss it with some but pushy is not cool.
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