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What if you want to spice up your sex life and need some advice as a newbie? Who can give a better advise than you? What should she do?

We are new the the lifestyle and although sexually adventurous with each other, we have not explored our own acceptable and comfortable activities with others as yet.. Would you suggest we hit the club scene before personal meet and greets? I experienced a club my self many years ago and loved how comfortable, friendly and at ease I felt. There was no pressure to participate in what I didn`t feel comfortable with. I was okay with everything then, but was single at that time. What would you all suggest and how do we avoid offending people when it comes to meet and greets?

Is there a social etiquette or rule to follow upon meeting in private groups or couples? 

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+5 #1 Ron 2017-06-29 04:42
At first meat & greets are the easiest, no pressure as there is no place to get naked unless you go to a hotel room.

Clubs are also good, best to go a few times and observe other's interactions. You can always say "no", the first rule of this hobby.

But before you do anything, discuss and agree with each other your limits. DO not change these limits in the heat of passion, go home, discuss. You are each other's
number one priority!!
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+8 #2 vrfun 2017-06-29 19:05
Our suggestion is to talk. When we say "talk", we mean talk about every feasible scenario, outcome, or event. As yourselves 'What do you think about ____? or "What if this/that happens? Maybe you even imagine or picture various situations. Then AGREE and set limits. Don't change limits at any party or event. Don't let alcohol make any decisions for you. At home, away from parties, discuss changes or new limits. Any questions that you answer "I don't know" is a No until you have some idea.
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+4 #3 LSSINCE07 2017-06-29 19:08
Since you're just starting out, go to a swingers club, discuss any limitations you might have, communicate as much as possible about expectations, and enjoy the flirting, watching, being watched and maybe even experimenting with other sexy people. Meet & greets and swinger sites takes more effort because it requires coordinating and planning with other people. I would save that for later once you're more seasoned. Get your feet wet.
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+4 #4 vrfun 2017-07-01 02:57
Our suggestion is to talk. When we say "talk", we mean talk about every feasible scenario, outcome, or event. Ask yourselves 'What do you think about ____? or "What if this/that happens? Maybe you even imagine or picture various situations. Then AGREE and set limits. Don't change limits at any party or event. Don't let alcohol make any decisions for you. At home, away from parties, discuss changes or new limits. Any questions that you answer "I don't know" is a No until you have some idea.
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+2 #5 Kim&Joe 2017-07-10 01:31
Talk! Talk! Talk! Discuss your rules and guidelines beforehand. Do not change those rules in the heat of the moment. The opportunity will arise if it was that wkndeful.
Do not do anything drunk that you wouldn't do sober. Alcohol can cause the biggest heartaches. Do not regret tonight's actions!
Always remember your partner and you are the most important people to each other. While you don't want to be rude to others, keep each other 1st & foremost at all times.
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0 #6 Erotic Stel 2017-08-02 13:33
Rules for newbies ....
There are many ways you can list them or arrange them but the "Golden Rules" in my viewpoint are,
1. NO jealousy in any way or form!
2. If he or she enjoys foreplay, sex or any other activity more with another person in on a swingers night has no reflection on your sex life. We are different with each and everybody everyday. And in the passion of sex it is the same.
3. Explore , let go and enjoy!
4. What happens on "date night" stays on date night!!
5. If you can't relax with your partner in the same room! Then try a separate room date.
6. Fights, troubles at home, work...etc. does not go with you on Date night.
7. You go out as a couple and return as a couple.
8. Set up a non verbal Yes or No. We stay for the duration or we go home.
9. Both parties "should have have" no couch potato attitude while the other is having a blast.
10. The biggest and important one for us is Safety, protection, Fun
11. If you intend to go for full sex swinger the need for pre warm up dates are of no use, unless your reason is to "match up or find a click" if you decided you want to go all the way then that is how you start the date night! Don't look for a reason to call it off before or during these dates.


Remember to have fun and enjoy the sexual lust and wild passion that a date night can offer!
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