How to ask to use a condom?


What if you want to spice up your sex life and need some advice as a newbie? Who can give a better advise than you? What would you answer her?

My question is probably a real newcomers one: Is it appropriate or even necessary to ask the male half of the couple to use a condom when I want to give him a blowjob? I understand STDs are also transferable by mouth. And is there a nice or good way to ask the guy the use a condom?

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+6 #1 Kitty 2017-10-09 21:44
'Is it appropriate or necessary' are two very different things. If YOU feel it's necessary, than appropriate has nothing to do with it! If it's something that means a lot to you, I would pack my own condoms. That way you know what to expect taste-wise, no spermicide, etc. Also, you can simply look up at him with doe eyes and say, "Would you mind if I slipped this on first?" I assure you that NO guy will say 'hell no!' and pull his pants up...
In the LS, you do what makes you comfortable. This is the beauty of the LS.
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0 #2 Good4Life 2017-12-02 22:10
I agree wholeheartedly with Kitty. If YOU feel it is necessary, then it is appropriate. As a male, I ALWAYS carry in my "play" bag a selection of flavored condoms, for just such cases. If this is important to you, I suggest you carry some also ( they are inexpensive ). It also shows that you are serious.
The flavored ones have no spermicide and thus no "yucky" taste. I've tasted a few. They are nothing to write home about, but taste better than regular ones.

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