What can we expect for our first date?
What if you want to spice up your sex life and need some advice as newbies. What can they expect at their first date? Who can give a better advise than you? What would your answer be?
My wife and I are new to the lifestyle. We have decided to go to a club here in Dallas.So our question is, is there an area where couples can be intimate in the club. We noticed the club mentioned there was a hotel near by. So we thought maybe it was a no no to be physical on the premises. We are not sure what to expect for our first. Maybe ever club is different?
I guess I could call and ask, but we were looking for general behavior advice. Thanks for the help! My question is probably a real newcomers one: Is it appropriate or even necessary to ask the male half of the couple to use a condom when I want to give him a blowjob? I understand STDs are also transferable by mouth. And is there a nice or good way to ask the guy the use a condom?
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Comments
1) "is there an area where couples can be intimate in the club" -- What do you define as "intimate"? If the club is advertised as an "on premises" club, don't be surprised to see full nudity and public sex. But, most "on premises" clubs, have an area set aside for "full" contact. Follow the club rules. Call ahead, if necessary, or see what the crowd is doing. Don't be the first ones doing anything.
2) "we were looking for general behavior advice." -- In the least, behave as if you are at a dance club where fondling and petting your partner is permissible. Being a bit of an exhibitionist is fine. Dress as bold as you dare, looking good and smelling good. Always ask before joining others. Require others to ask your permission before they join (or, touch) you. Imbibe sparingly. Nobody wants to play with a drunk.
3) "Maybe ever(y) club is different?" -- Yes, to some degree.
4) "Is it appropriate or even necessary to ask the male half of the couple to use a condom when I want to give him a blowjob?" -- Absolutely. You're comfort level is paramount. Anyone who is offended by your request, is someone who you shouldn't play with.
5) "is there a nice or good way to ask the guy the use a condom?" -- I prefer the straight forward approach. Ask him to. Or, better yet, bring a condom and tell him you are going to use this with him. Most players will not decline (he is, after all going to get a blowjob :) ).
Lastly, discuss beforehand, with your partner, what you wish to do, and do not deviate from that. Open and honest communication is absolutely necessary. Don't let the heat of the moment effect your commitments. You can always stretch your limits, after the fact, at another playdate.
The Lifestyle is about honesty, openness, and fun. Enjoy!
Be Well!
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