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Etiquette in swingers clubs?

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Ibiza funThis time in the category "My question is ..."  a question about etiquette. Do you need some advice from other swingers yourself, or when you have a question or problem you need help with? Just send an email to media@sdc.com.

We have been having great sex for over 28 years. We used to play with friends, but now find ourselves getting back into the desire to  meet new friends. We visited our first club. It was great and the couple we met worked out perfect. With so many naked people hanging around I saw every type of body and age range. We all had fun.

A few of them where very forward walking up and telling how great they kiss. My wife loved it and said he was very good and that it was hot. Also I saw some of the hottest women and they were into guys I never would have thought had a chance. The question I have is: what is the norm? I want to have the most fun I can, but don't want to step over any lines. Is there any advice or knowledge about etiquette in clubs?

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+6 #1 miami-couple 2012-09-10 15:26
The LS is still set that the women pretty much set the tone, what we recommend is that communication is key... Be polite say hello, introduce yourselves, invite for drinks just as you would at any other place. And see if theres is chemistry, at least once your in the back rooms and you see each other it wont be so awkward as meeting for the first time. most of the time you will get called over to play. But if not dont be offended, everyone has different likes & dislikes.
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+6 #2 Ron 2012-09-10 17:54
Etiquette?

No still means no, as always. Best is to read the other couple's body language. Many times a couple has the hots for you, but they do not notice that that you are not interested and they keep on you.

Respect for those you approach is important
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+5 #3 Lucky Charms 2012-09-11 15:26
Some people are just plain crass.Female half:Had an older guy come up to me (without introducint himself) and started grabbing my ass & tried to grab my boobs, but I moved away.RESPECT is the major Rule if you will. If you wouldn't grab and paw a female out in the vanilla world, why the hell would you do it in a LS club? Just because we dress sexy and/or are nude, doesn't mean that it is open season to grab and touch without even introducing yourself! Guess this is a "not what to do" comment.
The other thing that we have had an issue with, is people who won't take a polite "not at this time" meaning NO. Had a very obese cpl come up to us and asked us 4 different times if we would play with them! After the first polite "No" they should have stopped. We were trying not to hurt their feelings.....bu t next time we will not be so tolerant with people that won't take no for an answer.
So there you have it. DON'T be CRUDE, RUDE, or not listening to people!
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+10 #4 Southern Vixen 2012-09-11 21:44
I have been stalked by several couples in LS clubs. One couple felt that they could introduce themselves and immediately start touching me...grabbing my boobs and asking if I shaved or not. BIG FAT TURNOFF!
They followed me around all night. When I finally got down to business with another couple, the wife just plopped down next to us and tried to join in. Trying to kiss me and touch me. I had to sit up and tell her to get lost. She got really pissed and stomped off. What gave them the right to join in, uninvited? Just be polite when saying "no thank you" and be polite and don't get pissed if someone isn't into playing with you.
I agree with the others. Just be respectful on both sides of the issue. If you act like a crappy couple, people will remember it and share the information with their friends.
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