Swingers questions

Happy, but...It doesn't matter if you both are experienced swingers or just started with the lifestyle, you might have a question, run into a problem or need some advice about swinging or the lifestyle. And who better than other swingers can give you an answer or come up with a solution. So if you need help, just mail your question to media@sdc.com. And if you have an answer or suggestion, just type it in the comment box.


 

Is swinging not for me?

More...In the categorie 'My question is...' this time a question about jealousy. Do you also have a question about swinging or the lifestyle, a problem you need help with or want some advice from other swingers? Send an email to media@sdc.com.

My wife is too affectionate outside of the bedroom to other men when we swing. I don't know if I can take that part of it. It's ok when we are all in the bed room having sex but when we are just having a good time outside the bedroom I don't like it. it's the one major part I have with it. I thought swinging was all about sex fantasies not caressing another person in front of me while not in the playroom. I will let her do almost anything in the playroom, just not out. Is that asking too much or maybe swinging is not for me?

How can I change her thinking?

More...In the categorie 'My question is...' a cry for help from 'Peter'. Do you have a question or problem you need help with? Send an email to media@sdc.com and ask other swingers.

My wife and I have talked about swinging for several years, but she refuses to seriously consider it.We have been married over 30 years and are very committed to each other. I (husband) would like to try it, but she will not even consider meeting another couple for dinner to discuss it.The logic here seems to be "let her be in control". With her religious background, that may never cause anything to happen.So I have basically given up trying. Have I missed something? Any advice on what to do to change her thinking? I understand this is a VERY common problem among couples.

How can we meet partners for safe play...

More...In the section 'My question is...' you can ask any questions or get advice from other swingers. All you need to do is email media@sdc.com with your question and we will publish it. Today we received the following question:

Hi! We are brand new and discovering men do not like to use dental dams to perform cunnilingus nor have a condom for fellatio. This has been a deal breaker in all attempted connections (glad we were able to speak openly about it). We are fine with using our hands for direct hot oil massages but prefer latex gloves on hands that enter vaginas or anuses - again something folks have not been willing to do. We prefer condoms covering any sex toys, too.
How can we meet partners who are interested in our level of safe play?

My wife almost lost it

More...In the section 'My question is...' you can ask any questions or get advice from other swingers. Just send your question by email to media@sdc.com. Today we received a cry for help from 'John'. He desperately needs some advice from you guys. 

"We had our first full swap and my wife lost it... almost broke up over it.  she been wanting me to sleep with another person but when it happend she did not like it ... in fact she hated it.  She still wants to swing but the question is: should we? Any help would be thankful."

How to deal with rejection?

Happy, but...Ann needs to have some advice about dealing with rejection. Can you help her out?

 “Peter and I recently started swinging and we are already notice the happy effect it has on our sex life. It is fun and we really like it. However, I do sometimes feel a bit insecure when a couple rejects either Pete or me. Can anyone help out and give us tips how to deal with that?"

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