What is it like to be a swinger?

We don't think you should get into swinging early on in your relationship. Get to know each other WELL first. It take some time and a lot of conversation to know if thats something you BOTH want. We were together about 3 years and realized both of us were turned on to the idea of being with others and enjoying sharing are partners with otners. And wow we have made some very great memories. It has realy added to are relationship. We have been together now for over 20 years now and sure life would have been boaring with out all the great people and wonderful times and vacations we have had in lifestyles.

Swinging has been FAR more fun than we dreamed it would be. We have both fulfilled fantasies, which is great. And it has been wonderful for me to see her in sexual ecstasy with other men, and for her to see me experiencing heights of sexual desire, excitement, and pleasure with other women. I would not recommend it for anyone in a rocky relationship. We had some rough times in our marriage but a while back, long before we started swinging, we made (separate) decisions that divorce was simply never going to happen. So we jumped into this knowing that, no matter what happened, we were going to stay together. Neither of us experienced jealousy seeing the other with the opposite sex (my wife is not at all bi so all her experiences are with other men). Our biggest surprise, and a very unpleasant surprise it has been, is that here in South Florida 80-90 per cent of swinging women are primarily seeking other women, and really give a damn about having sex with men. Neither my wife or I get the phenomenon of bisexuality. The good news is that there are thousands of swingers down here, plus people traveling from other places. On the other hand, a pleasant surprise has been that 90-95 per cent of swingers are both very nice and very interesting. In fact, swingers are more interesting and complex and fun to hang out with than most people you meet on the street or in daily life. We are never ever bored in this hobby!

Johnnie, wow, our experience is quite the opposite in south Florida. My ex was bi, and finding a couple with a truly bi female was more difficult than finding a couple where both male and female were straight. My current (and last) wife is totally straight, no problems there finding attractive couples.

After 15+ years in this hobby, we find that lots depends on your attractiveness quotient as to the luck in finding couples.