Oh, those old days. When you wanted some 'swing' in your marriage, but did not know how. When the only openly chance of changing partners was on parties where you have to put your house keys in a bowl and went home with the person who's keys you drew. Whether you liked that person or not.
Times have certainly changed since then. Not even the way you meet other couples, but also the age people start swinging. It is no longer only for the generation over 35! Couples that want to meet other couples for more than a game of Memory are getting younger. They are more liberated and don't feel the guilt the older generation felt about changing partners for sex.
But how do you know if swinging is your and your partners cup-of-tea?
- Talk about your wishes and desires with your partner. Be sure to be subtle to figure out if he or she is willing to listen to your ideas. Make sure you tell it's not about cheating, but about joining a lifestyle. Together! Don't pressure your spouse.
- If you both decide to explore swinging, then discuss your boundaries and establish ground rules. And don't cross the line!
- Start of in a 'slow' way. Go to a club, explore what turns you and your partner on. Meet and interact with people in the lifestyle and tell them you are newbies so they won't come on too strong. Make a profile on a swingers site and be clear about your wishes and expectations. No more need to throw keys in a bowl and just accept the person you have to have sex with. You have a choice!
What are your tips for newbies?