How can we meet partners for safe play...
In the section 'My question is...' you can ask any questions or get advice from other swingers. All you need to do is email media@sdc.com with your question and we will publish it. Today we received the following question:
Hi! We are brand new and discovering men do not like to use dental dams to perform cunnilingus nor have a condom for fellatio. This has been a deal breaker in all attempted connections (glad we were able to speak openly about it). We are fine with using our hands for direct hot oil massages but prefer latex gloves on hands that enter vaginas or anuses - again something folks have not been willing to do. We prefer condoms covering any sex toys, too.
How can we meet partners who are interested in our level of safe play?
Comments
I wish you the best of luck in your search and your play
Is this for health risks, or for your male ego? In other words, do you have a problem with your wife giving another man oral sex, so with protection, she is not really touching his penis?
The best thing to do is get to know your potential play partners, finding those that feel similar to you about this. This will take time, and keep your playtime to a real minimume. But that is OK.
We have ourselves blood tested about every three months. This is a good measure, not only to put us at ease, but others also. We do ask cpls this question, "How often are you tested for HIV & STDs?" before we play.
You need to be very specific in your profile about your requirements. I can understand that part about latex gloves for anus penetrations, stretch that a bit to condoms on the fingers for manual vaginal penetration. But by the time everyone prepares, the mood will just be gone.
But still, same response as everyone else, perhaps this is not a lifestyle for you.
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