Are we over reacting?
Friends with benefits... or no longer friends at all? We received an email from a couple who are confused and need some advice. Do you want help, suggestions or advice about the swingers lifestyle? Just send an email to media@sdc.com. And now... this weeks question. Feel free to share your thoughts.
We are VERY new to the lifestyle (since Feb 2016) and we have met two couples who want to make friends and if the benefits come...thats great. They both have 'erotic' emails in their profiles. And my wife enjoys those and has shared these emails with the other couples 'male' companion. Well, the males have enjoyed these emails, fed the fire and gotten pretty hot and bothered. However, upon sharing these with their significant others, well lets just say that didn't go over very well. And needless to say, the friendship 'cooled' right off.
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We did still get together with these couples-one we played with (who then wanted to make another date-but never did) and one we spent a platonic weekend with-had a great time and they initiated the next date...and then when the date cane around-made an excuse not to meet up.
We're having a hard time understanding this. Both couples want to make lasting friendships but cant be honest with you. We are considering 'dropping out' of the lifestyle cause this just seems to weird.
Are we over reacting? Is this how couples relate? Just having trouble navigating this whole thing. Can you shed some light on this?
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As was stated before, communicate with your partner, what works and what doesn't. We are quite a bit different than when we started. We love where we are, but that doesn't mean we won't change in a year or two. Keep talking. Make sure each other are happy and don't worry to much about other reactions.
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