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Etiquette for the lifestyle

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In most cases couples who start swinging are triggered by thought of adding spice and extra thrill to their sex life. Swinging is when a couple share physical intimacy with another couple and they indulge and stimulate the intimate acts with other than one’s own partner and with full knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

There are some rules and etiquette issues to be considered for swinging.

  • Set boundaries and ground rules with your partner about what’s okay for the both of you. Do you only want to flirt and kiss with the other couple, or go all the way?
  • Be prepared. Shave and shower. Don’t dress like your going for a walk in the woods. Buy and ware nice lingerie.
  • No means no. Just have fun. You don’t have to do anything you don’t feel like without any explanation or justification. Just say ‘no thank you’ and respect it if someone says ‘no’to you.
  • Come and leave as a couple. Swinging is a game for you as a team, so if you both want to stay comfortable with it, you never leave your partner behind.
  • If you go to a party, arrive on time. It can be quite awkward for people already ‘in the mood’ if you arrive late and disturb things that are already going on.

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+6 #1 jeanny 2012-11-01 13:00
the second rule sometimes people are not aware. they even send pictures of themself with a big bush down there for me that is very nasty. PLease people shave they is nothing more uncomfortable when you are doing oral sex and a pubic hair get stuck in your throat. EWWWWWW
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+4 #2 P.E. 2016-11-14 19:42
Quoting jeanny:
the second rule sometimes people are not aware. they even send pictures of themself with a big bush down there for me that is very nasty. PLease people shave they is nothing more uncomfortable when you are doing oral sex and a pubic hair get stuck in your throat. EWWWWWW


I think it's a matter of preference, it's doesn't bother me one way or another, but I have come across men/women that actually prefer hair!
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+1 #3 Todd 2018-05-19 12:38
One thing that was told to my wife and I that helps keep the situation comfortable when meeting a new couple is to have a personal sign that is easy to do and recognizable to both of you about weather both of you are into the other couple. Example: one partner.sets there cell phone on the table and if the flip it screen up mean your giving the go ahead if your partner leaves it up, its a go. Face down no go.
And other rule is having a safe word that if any one of you says it " It means were done and were out of here. " so in case you are playing and one of you gets uncomfortable there a way to communicate it to each other and end immediately. Tip: make it a word that isn't common in your vocabulary but doesn't seem out of ordinary. We use banana milk shake - my wife is deathly allergic to bananas . but to say she wants a banana only may cause problems since one may show up. So for us banana milkshake lets us exit with out causing a whole lot of disruption to the goings on with very little possibility of some over helpful person coming to the rescue with on.
I hope you find these tips helpful they have helped us to avoid potentially embarrassing situations with out adding insult to the other couple.
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