How to deal with rejection?
Ann needs to have some advice about dealing with rejection. Can you help her out?
“Peter and I recently started swinging and we are already notice the happy effect it has on our sex life. It is fun and we really like it. However, I do sometimes feel a bit insecure when a couple rejects either Pete or me. Can anyone help out and give us tips how to deal with that?"
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I'm sure your not attracted to every couple your meeting, and not all are going to be attracted to you - its expected and you just move on. You are, after all, expecting two complete strangers to decide you two are the perfect sexual mate they've been looking for - your lucky if that happens once out of every three or four couples - and when it does, have a great time. The ones that don't match up with you, may turn out to be great friends, but not playmates..and that's okay!
Remember..this is all about having fun - if its not fun, or your not sure of the people your meeting, walk away..there will be another time!
We call it "getting over yourselves". No one on earth is beyond either attraction on the one hand or rejection on the other...and every living soul learns that by the time adolescence is over and adulthood is achieved.
Of course we all take it personally when someone rejects us; it is personal! But since no one is God's gift to the world and we all know it deep inside, just move on a focus on the good connections you've made and will continue to make. To do otherwise is to be self-pitying narcissists.
For all the rejections we get...think of all the rejections we have dished out? LOL! The human psyche only focuses on bed things when it comes to things like this...we never really remember when we do it to others as we are not the ones being rejected. It's swinging...it's all give and take!
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