Are swingers the next group ripe for discrimination?

b_150_83_16777215_00_images_content_SDC_swingers.jpgWe stumbled upon an article on the Examiner.com, dated Jan 2010. In this article the editor asks himself and the audience the question whether or not swingers are the next group ripe for discrimination. Is this question still valid now, November 2013? Do you feel discriminated when you tell about your lifestyle or do you keep silent about it?

Quotes from the article:

“Two articles arrived in my inbox this morning from The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, an organization that protects the rights of people in alternative sexuality communities. This month's news roundup seemed to be all about swingers - and the ways in which the communities in which they live try to shame, oust, or even prosecute them.

First up is a swingers club in West Virginia, where the small rural town of Gallipolis Ferry is trying to shut down The Riverside Club for operating without a business license. As a private organization, the club is not breaking any rules. But because it accepts donations, the city is arguing that it is technically a business.”

What might this mean for swingers in rural communities, or even more suburban areas? It's a bit different in cities, where there is higher population density and bigger things for the law to worry about than consenting adults getting together to have sex. But much of swinging takes place in the suburbs, or even rural areas.

“Many swingers keep their adventures a secret from their children, their neighbors, and their coworkers, preferring to swing in private and keep it separate from the rest of their lives. This can cause problems for people who are living otherwise "normal" lives if people find out.”

The other issue is about a couple in Aurora, IL, who were accused by their neighbors of being swingers via an email that went to nearly 200 of the couple's friends, neighbors, and PTA parents at the school their children attend. "Their conduct is truly extreme and outrageous, and goes beyond all possible bounds of decency.” Naturally, they are trying to defend themselves after two members of their community attacked them and attempted to have them and their children shunned by their neighbors and friends. But wouldn't it be nice to hear a different story, for once?”

Our question to you: Is it still so that there will always be ways for people's lives to be destroyed because of their consensual, adult activities? Are swingers, who are less visible and tend to lead more "acceptable" lives than some other subcultures, next up for discrimination?

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+1 #1 dirtybikers 2013-11-16 06:43
We tend to keep it quite. We've only told a couple of vanilla friends.
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+2 #2 Jon 2013-11-16 16:12
We keep it quiet, but have told several close friends/relativ es. Whenever I think someone would be open to it, and the topic naturally comes up, I think I should tell them. I think this will help to slowly build openness in the rest of the community. As gays slowly came out of the closet, eventually they became accepted, too, though it took quite a while. I do start seeing swinging in the mainstream from time to time: Rumors about hollywood stars being swingers, swinging on the Playboy channel and Playboy magazine. So there is hope.
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+15 #3 Ron 2013-11-16 18:53
Doubt if this lifestyle ever becomes mainstream. Best to keep your hobby to yourself, most just would not understand as their minds have been brainwashed by religious doctrines. Thou shalt not covet your neighbor's wife........but what if you had permission from her husband?
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+1 #4 purplecpl46 2013-11-19 03:17
We've been in the soft side of swinging for about a year now. And we have decided to remain tight-lipped regarding our sexual status for now. And that is due to our circle of friends being pretty closed-minded about swinging/swappi ng.
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+1 #5 cherie1 2013-11-19 13:54
There are still too many things in this progressive 21st century that are taboo. Things that are not harmful to anyone. We will never get to a 'live and let live' society because there are always people trying to cram their views and beliefs down other people's throats. I tell others every chance I get. I do it as a matter of conversation and not as a big dark secret or a sales pitch, rather as a way of life I choose and enjoy.
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+1 #6 Joseph2 2013-12-21 18:54
We are not of the mind that this is something that is overtly discriminated against. We had a situation in Windsor Locks, CT where a swingers party was shut down but it was because of the actions of the attendees not out of discrimination. (The folks were walking around a hotel lobby without clothes on much to the surprise of other hotel guests). The party was shut down because of bad behavior. In fact the police that responded to the complaint of naked, intoxicated women in the lobby indicated that they felt bad because otherwise no laws were being broken (among consenting adults). Parties continue to go on at the hotel but are better watched by the hosts and the attendees know to keep their play private.

We choose to keep our sex lives to ourselves. When we were "vanilla" we did not discuss what went on behind our closed doors so we feel no need to share what we do with a special friend now. With our family and friends (not in the LS) it just doesn't come up in conversation. We have no desire to know what our parents or siblings are doing to keep their sparks lit and feel no need to share our bedroom secrets with anyone other than our partner(s).
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+3 #7 Paul P 2014-01-04 00:29
The problem is if I was gay and having a gay party no one could say or do anything about it or they would be in trouble. But when my neighbors found out I was having a swing party they all got together and told me they would go to my daughters Christian School and to the Media and let them know about the party this was black mail and extortion so I say Swingers are victimized in this country
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