Not in the mood for sex...get in the mood

September 01 2014 - In Lifestyle

To have an intimate relation, a healthy sex life is one of the key parts. But sometimes you or your spouse are just not in the mood. There are many reasons why couples rather watch television or go to sleep instead of having sex. Four moodkillers….and what to do about them.

• Boring…boring

Especially in long-term relationships, sex can get into a –boring  - routine. A solution can be to to spice up your sex life. You can try to change your ‘regular’ ways of having sex. And if you have a strong relationship and are both into it, you can find out if swinging, in any form, is something for you.

• Not satisfied with your body

Breasts, belly, skin, weight…a lot of people, mostly women unfortunately, are unhappy with (parts) of their body. A solution can be to ask your partner what he or she likes about you. Shift your focus. Look at he plusses. And if you are overweight, you can start by going to the gym.
Maybe you have an orgasm there ;-)

• Pain

If having sex is painfull, it is no wonder you try to avoid it as much as possible. For women, menopause is one of the reasons of vaginal dryness. A solution can be to use vaginal lubricants. Check  with your doctor if the pain continues so he or she can rule out other, possibly more serious conditions.

• No libido

A  health problem such as, depression, stress and anxiety, hormonal imbalances , excessive alcohol consumption and some medications can all  contribute to sexual dysfunction.  Of course if you have to take medication for f.i high blood presure or other health issues, you cannot just stop. But you can talk to your doctor., And  if you are dealing with stress and anxiety, there are remedies for these problems.

Effort

Getting back on the sex track with your partner  is going to take some effort. It is, like everything else in your relationship, a matter of ‘work’.