What should you know about swinging? Especially the first-time swingers can feel insecure about what to expect, to do or not to do. There is a lot of information on the internet. And the more experienced swingers can help you out. To wrap up a lot of info and give you a head start, we have made a list of some do's and don'ts for a Swingers Party. And what you should know as Newbie's.
The most effortless and effective way to meet other swingers is to become a member of f.i SDC. You will have access to people worldwide and in your own area who are into the lifestyle. This will make it also easier to find a local swinger party or event. And what a party is like? There is no easy answer for that since there are lots of varieties: from a huge club to a swingers cruise to a home party. It's just what you prefer or what appeals to you.
It takes 2
Swinging is for couples! You come as a couple and leave as a couple. Yes, you can have threesomes with either a second man or a woman, but still... it's a couple's affair.
Please, do behave
People can be insecure or uncertain, especially when they are new at the scene. Be courteous, and treat people the way you like to be treated. Act with sensibility and understanding. Be friendly, also to people you meet that don't have your interest.
Watch the clock
At least to be on time at a party. You would not miss the fun. When you arrive late everyone at the party might already be in full swing. And it’s awkward to just ‘jump in’. When you expect you are going to be late, inform the host beforehand.
Present a present
it’s a party, so don’t go empty-handed. Unless the host specifically asks not to bring anything. Ask beforehand what their wishes are/what they want you to bring. Maybe your own condoms.
Dress up, but right
Ask if there is a theme so that you can bring the right outfit. If there is no dress code, wearclothes that you are comfortable in. Wear also nice and clean lingerie/under ware. Leave all your valuables at home. No need for fine jewelry!
Clean as a whistle
Talk about clean, not only your under ware, also your personal hygiene should not be forgotten. Shower and shave before you go and take your deodorant with you ;-).
No is no
You always have to right to say 'no thank you'. And so does everyone in the lifestyle. You can explain why, but it is not necessary to do so. Better a polite 'no' than doing something you feel bad about or you might regret afterwards. And if your partner says 'no', that's a 'no' for you too!
Cool is the word
Even if you are new, act ‘cool’. Yes, you may ask some questions about 'how' and 'what' at that specific party, but don’t let your eyes pop out when you see a life porn scene! Just join in. Talk to your partner and sex partners about your wants and desires. Be honest and most of all: have fun and enjoy yourself.
- Read these tips for a first date too!